I didn’t find this in time to reblog it last Friday, so I decided to save it for today. I never really thought much about “queer heterosexuality” until I read this, but I will say that the creativity, flexibility, and negotiation of roles she’s referring to here are the things that make intimate relationships worthwhile. I agree with the argument, and I’m glad to have this insight into a perspective other than my own. It’s a very thoughtful and well-argued post.
I’m also pleased to see my friend Alva making some progress with her blog, which I can’t recommend highly enough.