An Apology to My Sisters: Looking for the Line Between Survival and Betraying Myself

Ciara timed this perfectly – she posted it right at the moment I was looking for a reblog. I encourage you to read it, and to read the post about marketing she links to from A Frame Around Infinity.

Ciara Darren

Recently Janice wrote a very honest and interesting post on marketing and feminism. The comment stream became lively and stimulating. You should go check it out. This post is partly inspired by the conversations I had with her and by the fact that Sourcerer held a Feminist Friday, which, sadly, I was unable to be online for.

As some of you might know, my husband, Knyght, and I are currently in San Diego, looking for work after a job fell through at the last moment. That left us a bit high and dry at the end of his contract in Japan. Yesterday, I went with him to a job interview at a sign printing shop that shall go unnamed for obvious reasons. I was invited because during the pre-interview phone call, the man hiring asked if Knyght spoke Mandarin. Knyght said he didn’t but that his wife did…

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Rankin County, Mississippi recognizes same sex marriage

Well, sort of. This is pure awesome.

Chrissy and Anna paid $12 to record their marriage license as a public document in their hometown of Brandon, Mississippi at the Chancery Clerk’s Office!

If you don’t know how Mississippi’s county courts work, marriage licenses have to be filed with the Circuit Clerk for the marriage to be legally recognized. The Chancery Clerk handles property transfers, among other things. Our friends at Deep South Progressive have the full story.

This is an good symbolic move, but there could be  more to it than that. I’m not an attorney, so take the rest of this with a grain of salt, but here is what I’m thinking.

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Today is the Day

A group of people are walking to the courthouse in downtown Jackson, Mississippi today. Several of those people are same sex couples and they are going to the courthouse to apply for marriage licenses. They knew before they left the house they would be turned down. They are doing it anyway, and here’s one of the reasons why.

It’s easy to sit in an office, or stand of the floor of a deliberative body, deny same sex couples the right to marry, and justify you decision in legal or moral language. It’s hard to stand on the other side of the counter, look two people in the eye, and deny them the right to marry. With cameras present, and supporters outside.

A person can only stand up to that so many times,and this is coming around every year until things change. Or until we Mississippians figure out how to do it ourselves, and start doing it every day. No matter what the state law says, we all know denying the license is shameful.

Once the people behind the counter start saying yes instead of no, things are going to change in a hurry, and it’s only a matter of time.

If you want to take what I’ve done here over the past couple of days and use it to support the Campaign for Southern Equality in your community, you have permission to copy and paste from these next two links without credit. There’s an explainer for people who don’t know what it’s about in this post. There are specific instructions that will tell you how to help them with social media on action days here. Adapt it for your own community and your network as you see fit.

Mississippians are working for Marriage Equality tomorrow. I’m supporting them. So can you.


This is from the Campaign for Southern Equality’s blog:

On Tuesday, March 25th in Jackson, Mississippi same-sex couples will apply for marriage licenses as part of the WE DO Campaign. Jessica and Amber are one of the those couples that will bravely walk into the Hinds County Courthouse and ask to be treated as full and equal citizens.

This is happening at 9:30 tomorrow. Here’s a direct link to the post. It includes a photo of Jessica and Amber, and a statement from Jessica.

If you wish to help, here are some things you can do:

1. Send these couples a message of support through the Southern Equality website.

2. Share the status update from their Facebook page announcing this event.

3. Watch their Facebook page and @CSElive tomorrow and share the relevant status updates and Tweets.

4. If you can’t be online while this is going on but would like to help, don’t sweat it. Keep in mind that a single social media share is only seen by a small portion of its potential audience. It’s helpful to share updates or write about it tomorrow evening, the next day, or even later. That’s how we keep ideas in play and find new readers for stories once we’ve done all we can with a single blog.

I hope everyone has a great week. I’ll have more on this later; we’ll also have plenty of our usual fare this week, as well.

Image via Southern Equality Facebook page.