Opinion: Marriage Equality

My social media is awash with pink equal signs and rainbow flags. It’s lit up like a multi-colored Christmas tree. Which, it should be, because the Mississippi legislature has decided that, of all the things we could possibly need them to do, the thing that most needs doing is for them to protect our religious freedom. Because we don’t already have a Bill of Rights for that or anything.


Here’s the really sad part. These people are getting paid to do the job of governing in a state with an unemployment rate higher than 15% in some counties, and this is what they’re screwing around with. Taking the wrong side on an issue that’s already decided, except for the part where everyone who’s uncomfortable with the decision acquiesces.

That’s where we are on marriage equality, folks. If it makes you uncomfortable, I empathize with your discomfort, but it’s really best for everyone if you just get over it.

Maybe one of these days I’ll make you a list of all the things that have gone on in the U.S. since 2000 that have made me uncomfortable but I have had to live with. People are going to have to learn to live with this, because it’s happening.

Here’s how it’s going to be, whether the Mississippi legislature comes to its senses and nixes this bill, or whether the federal government’s policies supercede it at a later date.


Marriage in this country will be a legal right, in all 50 states, and not just for opposite-sex couples. Legal marriage will entail full rights to participate in medical decisions, inherit property without a lot of undue legal bullshit, share the custody of children, file joint tax returns, and all kinds of other things that require separate contracts to get done between people who aren’t married.

See, that’s the real issue here. Legal rights. That’s why it has to happen, and why it will happen.

No one cares about your personal relationship with God, and no one cares what your congregation does about same-sex marriage. But most of us expect that if you open a bakery to the public, and someone offers you money for a wedding cake, you put on your apron and you make it to order, or else you’re liable to lose your privilege license. It’s not about your religion. It’s about legal equality.

Oh. And common decency.

It’s about that, too.

NOTE – If you want more information about the bill itself, I recommend Deep South Progressive as good starting point – they’re all over this. If you’re inclined to do something a little more active, there’s an event planned for March 26 in Jackson. It started out as a protest, but plans have changed, according to the organizers:

There has been a change in the event. After speaking with the ACLU, we have decided that instead of going to Jackson to protest Senate Bill 2681, we will be going to Jackson simply to show our state lawmakers that the LGBT+ community does exist here, that we are a part of this state and that we deserve to be counted, that laws should be made for our protections and rights and that we will not be quiet any longer.

We hope that this will not turn away those of you who signed on to this due it being a protest of SB2681. The fact still remains that we are not protected under state law. We have no protections from workplace/school discrimination, as well as no laws enabling us to take part in adoption, foster parenting or marriage.

This is still a very important day and we still need all the support we can get for this. So please continue to share this and join us in March as we show everyone that we are here.

Thank you very much.

– Both images are snagged from friends’ profile pics, but I feel as though the people who created them won’t mind. People don’t create images like these for the credit. They create them to spread ideas.

20 thoughts on “Opinion: Marriage Equality

  1. As I always go back to, civil rights shouldn’t be legislated, much less left to a vote. They just should “be”.

    Virginia’s ban on same-sex marriage got shot down a few weeks ago by the Federal court, but that is just the beginning of a still-long battle. No doubt if the elections for our Governor and other top officials had gone the other way in November, Cuccinelli would still be all over the news screaming about protecting the citizens.


    • I agree, this isn’t something that should really be decided by a vote, but here we are. I wanted to say so much more in this post, but thought it best to stick to the issue as best I could.

      I am really, really outdone by this, even though it’s Mississippi we’re talking about and I’ve lived here all my life. And I think the law, as written, even with recent amendments, creates potential for all kinds of mischief that has nothing to do with discrimination based on sexual orientation.

      The way religious freedom is being used, both in this debate and on other issues, frankly disturbs me, and I would like to see it shut down.


  2. Its unfortunate that this is still an Issue in the US. Canada has pretty much moved past this. It seems that among all the modern industrialized countries of the world the US cant seem to progress on what are considered ‘solved’ social issues.


  3. Yes!!!!! Well put, well said, well done! I sense that you exercised restraint but your fire and passion still came through…. So many thoughts that you just expressed that I agree with… there are important urgent issues and the legislatures around our country are taking up precious time with this kind of ridiculous b.s…. and someone’s religious views are something for them to deal with, the fact that some use religion to take away other’s rights is disgusting to me. Perfect. I loved this.


    • Thanks! Yes, it took a lot of restraint to make it this short and keep the profanity to one word. Thanks for tweeting the link. This is one I hoped people would share.


  4. Well put. I’m glad to have voted in my state to allow marriage equality. We’re not a religious country and we must no use our religion to mar the happiness of others. If you can’t do it out of moral responsibility, do it out of the realization that someday it could be your rights and freedoms versus someone else’s religion.


  5. Yes, well said. It’s a matter of time until marriage for all in a foregone conclusion. It’s also about common decency, yeah. And love, which sure as heck beats hate. Great post.


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    • You know, the smart thing to do would have been to take down the link to this blog when you took down Andy’s. He told you your criticism of me suffered from the same problem as your criticism of him. It’s obvious we know one another. I was stuck at work while all this was going down, and then had to actually write the response. You had every opportunity.

      And just based on the overall attitude of this post, you had to know I wasn’t just going to let this slide. Did you even read it?

      Dealing with you was easy. You need to pay more attention to who you’re linking to before you do stuff like this.

      Take it down now, or don’t. I could care less, because you are the one who looks ridiculous. My response to you is now part of the public record for all time.


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